Urban Dictionary: Ex prefix for someone who was or used to be.
There's an interesting article about orbiting by Anna Iovine, she wrote an article HERE, it's the word we give about when you break off direct contact with someone you dated, but they're still watching your online platform.
Ending things with someone is never easy, no matter how much time was spent, from three months to three years, it still hurts, especially when they end up dating someone else a month later, and trust me when you're walking and you see them in the city streets, it's even more awkward. You might even convince yourself it's ok to stay in contact online, and that you're totally ok with it. You'll go through all these emotions, you'll go back and forth how you want to stay in contact, you'll reach out, but the replies are never the same. You're just holding onto a memory, that person is longer the person they were with you. So why are you keeping someone virtually in your life but not actually in your real life?
Does blocking them make you immature AF? (as fuck). Yes and no, but if there's no real 'friendship' there then what's the point keeping tabs on someone who is watching you from a distance but too afraid to call you. What we show online is a snippet, it's a little key peak hole inside a wooden closed door. I finally hit the block button on everything, facebook, phone number, Instagram, you name it I blocked it. I didn't want to, but it was honestly stopping me from moving on. He's moved on, so why can't I? Because I still cared too much, in the past I didn't care when things ended, I thought I grew up, but this time I really did care too much.
I thought, up until recently that I was strong enough to have someone I cared and felt deeply for to have the access to watch my account. I was in denial for a bit. Yes, I'm an influencer, and yes I'm still a woman who has feelings and takes note when their former person they hung out with notices their Instagram stories or not. At first, I wanted to stay connected, but as time went on and I knew he was seeing someone else and still watching my profile account made me feel annoyed and confused. I was putting myself through pain every day and curating my online platform for him instead of myself, thinking twice what to post up. SAD I know, but emotions and things really do get the best of us.
It's ok if you don't cut off all contact straight away, and hey, maybe you'll still message them and reach out, and you'll also battle the fact you shouldn't, and you'll hold onto hope that maybe they might hang out with you again (lol). If you're finding yourself stuck as I did, then it's ok to just walk away when you're ready, and I was finally ready.
So next time you're telling your friends to block and delete, they will, in time, in their own time when they're ready.
If you're reading this, I don't hate you, I just needed to move on.
Till next time Foxes.